aTypical Joe: a gay New Yorker living in the rural South

Wednesday, August 29, 2007

Larry Craig is not gay

Craig says he’s not gay. I have to agree.

Gay is self-assigned. I am gay because I say so. If I hang out in bathrooms and am photographed in flagrante, that may prove I engaged in a homosexual act, but it does not make me gay.

When I saw Brokeback Mountain I wrote that Being gay is a choice. A homosexual proclivity may not be:

Homosexual and gay are not synonymous; all homosexuals are not gay. Homosexual acts may be circumstantial - a man in prison, a drunken evening - or experimental and do not mean an individual is homosexual by nature. But experimentation can lead to the discovery of a homosexual inclination.

Once that inclination is realized, how it is addressed matters to all of us. Because then there is a choice to be made: to accept homosexuality or to resist and fight it. To embrace it is to become gay. To resist it leads to all kinds of trouble.

In Abraham Lincoln’s day, a more agrarian time when the family was the economic unit, gay was not a choice. Had it been, I’m persuaded beyond all reasonable doubt that Lincoln might have chosen it. And that he’d have been happier if he had.

Urbanization and mobilization - particularly World War II which brought women into the workforce and men together as it took them around the world - brought with it the beginnings of a gay identity. That identity is rooted in the collective experience of those who have gone through the difficult process of making the choice to embrace their homsexuality.

I saw Brokeback Mountain yesterday. Its peculiar achievement is to show straight America the cost to all of us when someone chooses not to be gay. For Ennis’s torment was not his alone; he shared it with Jack and Alma and their daughters and every woman he dated and every random person that fell victim to his wild outbursts of rage against the world. [...]

Ennis didn’t realize he had a choice. In the final shot, alone in his trailer, Ennis looks at a postcard of Brokeback Mountain tacked to a closet door. He closes the door.

What we must see, all of us gay and straight alike, is that it’s in our interest to help open the closet door. We must make the choice to come out of the closet and become gay an easier one; the obvious one. Because that’s the right choice, the good choice, the healthy choice, for our society and for all of us living in it.

Craig is clearly not gay. His homosexual inclination is another matter entirely.

RELATED: Glenn Greenwald catalogs the Right Wing flip:

Last October, [conservatives] depicted [outing blogger Mike] Rogers as an “odious presence” for violating Craig’s privacy based on purely private behavior that was none of anyone’s business. Today, the same [conservatives demand] that Craig resign from the Senate, and invokes exactly the rationale which Rogers and other “outers” use[d] to justify these disclosures…